It’s time to remember being 13 …

See that girl below? That’s me. I’m 13 in that first photo and it’s 1985. Sixteen in the other photo (so 1988).

I look at those photos and I go straight back. I can remember my teen years like they were yesterday. I remember feeling hopeful, unsure, awkward, vulnerable, excited, fragile and bold.

I remember being in love with boys who never knew I existed. I remember laughing so hard during lunchtime with my friends Lynne and Robin that tears came down my face. I remember hating everything about how I looked. I remember feeling jealous and being unkind when my friend Lynne tried to bring a new girl into our friendship group in grade 9. I remember moments of humiliation. And moments of real joy.

Here’s another memory.

From the age of 15 I worked in a popular department store every Christmas holidays. I always worked in the ‘handbag’ department dutifully dusting the wallets and bags. Anyway, one Saturday morning when I was 16 and at work, my beautiful mum came in to visit me while she was shopping. Now my mum and I are (and were) very close. Let me also say we look nothing alike. We are completely different builds. She’s much smaller than me. Anyway, in she comes to see me. And once she leaves my manager Andrew* comes over to me and says, “So was that your mum?” I say yes. And then he said to me, “Oh so is your dad fat?”

I knew exactly what he was saying. I went home devastated.

And when I got home i was in a FOUL mood. I was rude and grumpy to my parents – even though we were close. And I didn’t tell them a word of what had happened that day. I kept it to myself. But I was gutted.

Thirty-one years later and I still remember that moment and how much it hurt.

So what’s my point? My point is that so often as parents we take our tween and teenager’s grumpy, cranky, cantankerous behaviour personally. I get emails from parents (or we do a bit of group therapy in the Lighthouse Plan closed group) questioning why their kids are in such foul moods when they get home from school. Why they grunt or mumble at them.

We must think back to what those years were like. Our teens are fragile and vulnerable about who they are. And the world (and sometimes their manager 😐) is telling them who they are and how they look is not okay. And then there’s school which can be joyful but also brutal. Sometimes the thought of saying out loud what has gone down during the day is just too humiliating or painful. Our kids are dealing with big feelings and emotions.

So sometimes when our tween or teen comes home in a foul mood — don’t push them for answers, instead leave a hot chocolate in their room. Maybe over dinner ask them to rate their day out of 10 (since sometimes trying to articulate how you are feeling is just way too hard and giving a score to snapshot how you are feeling is easier). Or write them a loving note in a journal “You don’t seem yourself. Are you okay? Can I help?” and leave it in their room to reply in writing. Sometimes making eye contact and talking in person is just too hard.

I’m sharing this tonight because parenting legend @MaggieDent is an ambassador for Embrace at Telethon Kids Institute, the first research centre in WA to focus on the mental health of young people birth to 25. Importantly, their research has a national focus so it’s not just WA based.

Maggie is asking all of us to post a photo from our teenage years with #supportembrace to show our support for young people who are traversing adolescence right now, so they can see we’ve all been through it. And we have. I encourage and invite you to post your own photo in support. Let’s help each other remember that being a teenager is hard and often lonely.

And if you’d like to donate to the campaign to help raise funds go to


You might also like...


  1. ganeljohnson521 on August 11, 2023 at 11:10 am

    #( authentic IELTS/TOEFL/ESOL Certificates without exam, Kuwait, Qatar, Egypt, Jordan, Bahrain, CANADA, UK, JAPAN, CHINA, HONG KUNG.Buy valid CEH and OSCP, PMP, CISSP, CISCO, TOEFL, TESTDAF, TELC, COMPTIA, ISACA, ISC2.Buy Goethe certificates B1 online without an exam.Buy IELTS in Tashkent, Hanoi, Hong Kong, Islamabad, Seoul,Tehran, Riyadh, Baghdad, Kabul, Kuala Lumpur,Get the required scores in Ielts,Toefl, Pte, Gmat, Gre, Nebosh, SAT,Esol, Toiec, Oet, ACT, GED, Usmle, Psat, lsat, Celban, FCE, CAE,CPE, BEC, Fle, Tesol WITHOUT EXAM.

    Get Ielts Band 7.0 Brazil
    Obtain Ielts Band 8.0 in China
    Buy Ielts Band 8 in Greece
    Buy Ielts Band 8 France
    Obtain Ielts Band 9 United Arab Emirates
    IELTS certificate without taking the Exams in Kerala
    Need Ielts Band 9.0 Dubai
    Buy Real Ielts Band 6.5 Pakinstan
    Buy IELTS Question Papers and answer
    Obtain Ielts Band 6 Egypt
    Real Ielts Band 7.0 Germany
    Real Ielts Band 9.0 Dominican Republic

    The IELTS 9-band scale
    Each band corresponds to a level of English competence. All parts of the test and the overall band score can be reported in whole and half bands, e.g. 6.5, 7.0, 7.5, 8.0 etc.Once you submit your information and do your payment, your Certificate will be produce and registered. IF express service is required, we can make the certificate in 3 days for extra Fee of Rush Service. Certificates will be Original and registered in the data base and Can be verified at After your order is placed it takes just few days for us to get your details in the system, Once your details are imputed in the system it will be in the IELTS, TOEFL, ESOL web sites/system and will appear real. Also give out ID Cards, Drivers License, PTE, IELTS Certificate, Telc Certificate.telc – language tests are highly recognized by companies, government authorities, schools and universities. As there is no European body that regulates recognition issues, each institution that requests proof of language proficiency has to deal with its needs individually. Here are just some examples of cooperation with the telc certificates. The certificates we issue is registered under all Government Authorities. Also give out ID Cards, Drivers License, PTE, IELTS Certificate, Telc Certificate without test, Marriage certificate and Divorce Certificate 2023.We operate 24/7, Contact Email::(
    General support (
    WhatsApp:: +1 (929) 565-4715
    Skype ID: jacks.documents

  2. ganeljohnson521 on August 11, 2023 at 11:14 am

    ( LANGUAGE CERTIFICATES JLPT-HSK certificate online with or without exams. but if you want we can also provide you with the questions and answers at least 2 weeks before the exam date.

    Skype: jacks.documents The JLPT has five levels: N1, N2, N3, N4, and N5. The easiest level is N5 and the most difficult level is N1. N4 and N5 measure the level of understanding of basic Japanese mainly learned in class. N1 and N2 measure the level of understanding of Japanese used in a broad range of scenes in actual everyday life. At Buy BUY CEH and OSCP LANGUAGE CERTIFICATES we can help you to buy JLPT N1, N2, N3, N4, and N5. Certificates without exams online for sale in Japan. BUY JLPT CERTIFICATE – BUY AUTHENTIC JLPT CERTIFICATE FOR SALE – JLPT CERTIFICATE WITHOUT EXAM – HOW TO GET JLPT N1 CERTIFICATE ONLINE – BUY JLPT N2 CERTIFICATE FOR SALE IN JAPAN – DO YOU NEED JLPT N3 CERTIFICATE WITHOUT TEST FOR SALE? – WHERE CAN I BUY THE ORIGINAL JLPT N4 CERTIFICATE ONLINE FOR SALE – PURCHASE A VALIDATED JLPT N5 CERTIFICATE WITHOUT AN EXAM

    Skype: jacks.documents Get Registered CAPLE A1-A2-B1-B2-C1-C2 Certificate Online Without Exam – Buy Original CAPLE A1-A2 Certificate Online – Get CAPLE Scores Without Exam – GET CAPLE B1-B2 Certificate Online WITHOUT TEST, Buy CAPLE Certificate without exam, Registered CAPLE C1-C2 Certificate without exams, Buy CAPLE Certificate Without Exams – CAPLE Certificate Without Exams in Berlin- Buy Caple A1 Portuguese language certificate – Buy Portuguese language certificate without exam in India

    mailto:( Buy Authentic CAPLE A1 certificates online, Buy Genuine CAPLE A2 Certificates without exam, Buy Registered CAPLE B1 Certificate For Sale, Buy Original CAPLE B2 certificates without exam in the USA, Buy valid CAPLE C1 certificates online in India, Buy CAPLE C2 Certificate without exam in Hyderabad, Buy validated CAPLE certificate online for sale, CAPLE certificates online. CAPLE A1 certificate in India, Buy CAPLE Questions Papers. Skype: jacks.documents)

    Skype ID: jacks.documents
    WhatsApp:: +1 (929)565-4715

Leave a Comment

About Bec

Over the past 25 years Rebecca Sparrow has earned a living as a travel writer, a television publicist, a marketing executive, a magazine editor, a TV scriptwriter, a radio producer, a newspaper columnist and as an author.

Bec-Hero V2

social media


Want to know if your child is ready to have a social media account?

 Enter your details below and I'll send you my 4-point checklist.