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CREATING STRONG CONNECTIONS BETWEEN MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS.

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I love being a mum.

I ESPECIALLY LOVE THE TWEEN YEARS WHEN OUR KIDS ARE AGED 8-12.

You know why I love it? Our kids are that little bit more independent and showing magical glimpses of their future selves! They love science or basketball or Frida Kahlo or writing poetry or all of the above! At the same time our voice is still the strongest in their lives and the opinions of their friends are yet to really dominate their own! The tween years offer us an amazing window of time to help us establish ourselves at our children’s lighthouse — a go-to source of wisdom and comfort as they learn to navigate friendships, school, puberty and everything else life seems to throw at them.

BEING A LIGHTHOUSE TO OUR CHILDREN IS REALLY ABOUT ESTABLISHING A STRONG, OPEN RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM.

If you're like me, you want to have the type of bond whereby your daughter will come to you if they're worried or anxious or struggling with an issue. We want them to turn to us when things go pear-shaped rather than leading (as some teens seem to do) a double life or even worse, suffering in silence.

We especially want them to feel comfortable talking to us if:

  • They're being bullied
  • They're struggling with friendship issues
  • They're worrying about something (school work, family dramas etc)
  • They have a secret crush!
  • And perhaps most crucially - if they've experienced something that left them feeling uncomfortable or unsafe or alone.
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BUT HOW EXACTLY DO WE DO THAT?

Here’s one thing I know for certain: leaving it to chance is not the answer. Having a close connection with your child isn’t about luck. Instead it’s about key strategies and decisions you make when BEFORE the teen years hit in full force.

That's where

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comes in.

I’M GIVING YOU A ROADMAP TO THE TWEEN YEARS ...

I'm a big believer in laying a strong foundation of communication, support and openness when our kids are tweens - after all this is when we're still the major influence in our daughter's life. And that's what my Lighthouse Plan is all about. It’s a roadmap to the tween years.

Here's what you'll receive from me EVERY WEEK for the next 6 weeks:

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A bond building strategy (this is a tool or strategy to help build and/or strengthen the bond between you and your daughter. My intention is for your daughter to see you as their lighthouse -- that person to turn to for guidance and wisdom particularly when the seas are rough)

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A gold-star tween/teen parenting tip(these are the best parenting tips for tweens I've read over the years).

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A How-To-Handle page: periods, friendships dramas, body image issues — I’ll curate the best resources I’ve found and put it all in the one place for you to go back to.

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Access to a closed Facebook group where more than 750 mums of girls are sharing tips, asking advice and brainstorming solutions for their parenting dilemmas in a private, judgement-free space.

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A copy of my Before You Hit Send notes on how to have a more positive experience online.

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PLUS my Resources List for tween/teen girls and tween/teen boys.

IN THE LIGHTHOUSE PLAN (1) WE COVER ALL THE STICKY SITUATIONS MOTHERS AND THEIR DAUGHTERS FIND THEMSELVES IN OVER THE TWEEN/TEEN YEARS, INCLUDING:

  • Friendships and Frenemies
  • Getting Your Period
  • Body Image worries
  • Confidence and Resilience
  • Mental Health (anxiety and depression)
  • Social Media and Smartphones

No more hours spent Googling different concerns! In this six-week course, I’ve done the legwork for you and curated the best articles, podcasts, books and videos on these key topics. You’ll find the best resources in one spot at your finger tips.

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(THANK YOU VERY MUCH!)!

Before we go ANY further, let me make something really, really clear.

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I’m not a psychologist. Or a youth worker. Or a teacher. 

So who am I exactly?  I studied communications at university and over the past 25 years have built a career based on knowing how to effectively communicate and connect with people of all ages.  During that time I’ve worked as a magazine editor, a kids TV scriptwriter, a newspaper columnist, a feature writer and an author. It was when my first novel “The Girl Most Likely” was published in 2003 that I found myself being asked to go into schools to teach writing workshops and occasionally to give “author talks”.  My author talk was based on the themes of my debut novel: everything I’d learnt about screwing up, bouncing back, choosing great friendships and ditching perfectionism. The first time I stood in front of a group of teens chatting with them about resilience, I knew I was where I was meant to be. Eventually through word-of-mouth I was inundated with bookings from schools to talk to students about these topics.  I was twice invited to speak at the Halogen National Young Leaders Day in Brisbane (2004 and 2006, I think) and both times received the top rating from the thousands of high school kids in attendance.  

Since then I have gone on to speak to THOUSANDS of primary school and high school students at hundreds of schools across Australia. I’ve written three best-selling books for girls on navigating high school, I’ve hosted an award-winning agony aunt podcast for teenage girls (Ask Me Anything), I’ve been invited to write parenting advice pieces for magazines like KIT and Mindful Parenting and in 2018 I was  invited to sit on the Queensland Government’s Anti Cyber Bullying Taskforce. My articles and resources are used by psychologists and school teachers across Australia (I know this because they email and tell me!). 

But I’m the first person to point out that I’m not a “parenting expert.” I lose my shit.  I lose shit. I don’t have all the answers and I don’t pretend to. But I am very good at finding out the answers and then pointing my members in the right direction to the best experts, books and other resources.

And that is why I created The Lighthouse Plan.  Yes, I wanted to share everything I’ve personally learned over the past 25 years connecting with and understanding tweens and teenagers. But even more than that, I wanted to help other parents feel less isolated and less overwhelmed.   Because as parents in 2019 we are stretched in ways that no other parenting generation has been.  And we are dealing with issues that no other generation has had to handle. Here’s what I know: All the answers/resources/support  are out there...but you have to know where to go looking for them. So think of me as your Tour Guide to your daughter’s tween and teen years. And the Lighthouse Plan in your roadmap.

So when I hear mums say, “Life is so busy, and I can feel my daughter slipping away from me… and I don’t know how to stop it.” - I HEAR YOU. 

Life IS busy, and as parents we get caught in the endless treadmill of work / carpool / washing uniforms and packing school lunches.

In The Lighthouse Plan I’m giving you all the best strategies  I’ve learned about connecting with tweens and teens AND doing the leg work for you when you’re thrown a parenting curveball. Plus our 750+ private Facebook group has become a judgement-free, safe space where parents of girls can ask each other for advice and support.  (In the past few weeks we’ve covered everything from frenemies in the playground to first boyfriends to group sleepovers.)

I would love to help you better connect with your daughter.

I would love to provide you with the best resources
to navigate the sometimes rocky, often wonderful  path ahead.

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Here’s what some of the
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have said about the course:

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Just wanted to send a quick note to let you know how much I’m enjoying ‘TheLighthouse Plan’.

My daughter is 12 and in year 6 (her last year of Primary School) and it is proving to be a challenging year …. I am loving this ‘lifeline’ you are providing.  The topics are all of great benefit and the fact that you are writing about them makes me realise that I’m not alone!  The articles and videos are very informative and helping me interact in a more positive way with my daughter.

I am learning a lot about me too.

JN

Parent

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Just wanted to let you know how much I loved Week One and how useful the information is! I have a 13 year old who is getting her very first period and the tips and links you have shared are super helpful.

SH

Parent

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I’d love to have you join me!

But wait! Theres more!

You'll also get access to "The Six Series"

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Award-winning librarian Megan Daley talking six tips on nurturing a tween’s love of reading.
Founder of Mamamia Mia Freedman will talk the six biggest lessons she’s learnt being the mum of a tween girl.

Digital Health and Wellbing Expert  Dr Kristy Goodwin will discuss what every parent needs to know about kids and life online.

Social Worker Caroline Ellen will fill us in on six tips to safer sleepovers.

Psychologist Cass Dunn will talk us through girls and six ways to safe guard their confidence.

Expert advice at your finger tips. Don’t miss out.

PRAISE FOR

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As a parent of a tween, I'm really glad that I've had The Lighthouse to guide me through some of this age's choppier waters.
The thing I have enjoyed most about this course is its accessibility and practicality.
We don't always have time to study tomes on parenting, so I appreciated being able to dip in and dip out of some great ideas, and use the ones that
I felt might work for us. They did!

Frances Whiting

Parent

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Bec Sparrow seems to me to live her mantra: be kind and brave. I loved getting tips and hints from her. She seems to be very much on my wavelength. Thank you.

KD

Parent

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ABOUT REBECCA SPARROW

Over the past 25 years Rebecca Sparrow has been a travel writer, a magazine editor, a newspaper columnist, a TV scriptwriter and a novelist.  She is perhaps best-known as the author of three best-selling non-fiction books for teenage girls designed to help them navigate those tricky high school years. Those books include Find Your Tribe  (and 9 other things I wish I'd known in high school); Find Your Feet (The 8 things I Wish I'd Known Before I Left High School) and the best-selling Ask Me Anything (heartfelt answers to 65 anonymous questions from teenage girls). Aside from writing books Rebecca writes for Mamamia and plays agony aunt to teenage girls on the Ask Me Anything podcast. Bec talks to thousands of high school students every year about friendship, resilience, giving back and life online.  Rebecca is an ambassador for The Pyjama Foundation, ReachOut Parents and #TeamGirls a joint initiative by Suncorp, and Netball Australia. In 2018 she was invited to be a member of the Queensland Government’s Anti-Cyber Bullying Taskforce.  She is a mother to three kids (including one tween girl!).

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THE EARLY BIRD GETS THE WORM!

The Lighthouse Plan is $185.

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The Lighthouse Plan

$185
  • 🗸 The Lighthouse Plan Course
  • 🗸 PLUS FREE Access to the Tricky Conversations Course
  • 🗸 A bond building strategy, gold-star tween/teen parenting tip and a How-To-Handle page
  • 🗸 Access to a closed Facebook group
  • 🗸 Before You Hit Send notes
  • 🗸 Resources List
  • 🗸 PAYMENT PLAN AVAILABLE ($31 + GST per month x 6)

+ 10% GST for Australian Residents

Bec's Guarantee:

“In 2019 the tween years feel trickier than ever. Our girls are experiencing friendship dramas, a drop in confidence and body image issues to name a few. This course is your roadmap to the tween years as I show you how to guide your daughter through this often wonderful and sometimes rocky period!  

Best of all I’ll show you how to teenage-proof your relationship by strengthening your bond and your lines of communication with your daughter before she becomes a teenager. I offer a money-back guarantee for anyone who completes the course and feels like it wasn’t worthwhile - that’s how much I believe in it.”

Bec Sparrow

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Bec Sparrow seems to me to live her mantra: be kind and brave. I loved getting tips and hints from her. She seems to be very much on my wavelength. Thank you.

KD

Parent

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I love everything Rebecca Sparrow stands for. She has  made my parenting journey of our two gorgeous young girls so much more confident. Having a Bec in my back pocket has been in valuable!

LW

Parent

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Disclaimer:

Like everything in life, your decisions are you own.  Please do not substitute the advice given in The Lighthouse Plan for that of a trained professional such as a Psychiatrist, Doctor or any other health professional.

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