Creating strong connections between mothers and daughters.

I  love being a mum.

I especially love the tween years when our kids are aged 8-12.

You know why I love it? Our kids are that little bit more independent and showing magical little glimpses of their future selves! They love science or basketball or Frida Kahlo or writing poetry or all of the above! At the same time our voice is still the strongest in their lives and the opinions of their friends are yet to really dominate their own! The tween years offer us an amazing window of time to help us establish ourselves at our children’s lighthouse — a go-to source of wisdom and comfort as they learn to navigate friendships, school, puberty and everything else life seems to throw at them.

Being a lighthouse to our children is really about establishing a strong, open relationship with them.

If you're like me, you want to have the type of bond whereby your daughter will come to you if they're worried or anxious or struggling with an issue. We want them to turn to us when things go pear-shaped rather than leading (as some teens seem to do) a double life or even worse, suffering in silence.

We especially want them to feel comfortable talking to us if:

  • They're being bullied
  • They're struggling with friendship issues
  • They're worrying about something (school work, family dramas etc)
  • They have a secret crush!
  • And perhaps most crucially - if they've experienced something that left them feeling uncomfortable or unsafe or alone.

But HOW exactly do we do that?

Here’s one thing I know for certain: leaving it to chance is not the answer. Having a close connection with your child isn’t about luck. Instead it’s about key strategies and decisions you make when BEFORE the teen years hit in full force.

That's where


comes in.


I'm a big believer in laying a strong foundation of communication, support and openness when our kids are tweens - after all this is when we're still the major influence in our daughter's life. And that's what my Lighthouse Plan is all about.

Here's what you'll receive from me EVERY WEEK for the next 6 weeks:


A bond building strategy (this is a tool or strategy to help build and/or strengthen the bond between you and your daughter. My intention is for your daughter to see you as their lighthouse -- that person to turn to for guidance and wisdom particularly when the seas are rough)


A gold-star tween/teen parenting tip (these are the best parenting tips for tweens I've read over the years).


A How-To-Handle page: periods, friendships dramas, body image issues — I’ll curate the best advice I’ve read and put it all in the one place for you to go back to.


Access to a closed Facebook group where I will post extra information relating to tween/teen boys and girls.


A copy of my Before You Hit Send notes


PLUS my Resources List for tween/teen girls and tween/teen boys.

In the Lighthouse Plan (1) we cover all the sticky situations mothers and their daughters find themselves in over the tween/teen years, including:

No more hours spent Googling different concerns!  In this six-week course, I’ve done the legwork for you and curated the best articles, podcasts, books and videos on these key topics.  You’ll find the best resources in one spot at your finger tips.
  • Friendships and Frenemies
  • Getting Your Period
  • Body Image worries
  • Confidence and Resilience
  • Mental Health (anxiety and depression)
  • Social Media and Smartphones
But wait! Theres more!

You'll also get access to "The Six Series"

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Award-winning librarian Megan Daley talking six tips on nurturing a tween’s love of reading.
Founder of Mamamia Mia Freedman will talk the six biggest lessons she’s learnt being the mum of a tween girl.
Fitter Futures director Samantha Mathers will discuss the link between a girl’s confidence and exercise.
Award-winning journalist and author Madonna King will fill us in on six ways to build stronger bonds between girls and their dads.
Psychologist Cass Dunn will talk us through girls and six ways to safe guard their confidence.

Expert advice at your finger tips. Don’t miss out.



Just wanted to send a quick note to let you know how much I’m enjoying ‘TheLighthouse Plan’.

My daughter is 12 and in year 6 (her last year of Primary School) and it is proving to be a challenging year …. I am loving this ‘lifeline’ you are providing.  The topics are all of great benefit and the fact that you are writing about them makes me realise that I’m not alone!  The articles and videos are very informative and helping me interact in a more positive way with my daughter.

I am learning a lot about me too.




Just wanted to let you know how much I loved Week One and how useful the information is! I have a 13 year old who is getting her very first period and the tips and links you have shared are super helpful.



As a parent of a tween, I'm really glad that I've had The Lighthouse to guide me through some of this age's choppier waters.
The thing I have enjoyed most about this course is its accessibility and practicality.
We don't always have time to study tomes on parenting, so I appreciated being able to dip in and dip out of some great ideas, and use the ones that
I felt might work for us. They did!

Frances Whiting


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Over the past 25 years Rebecca Sparrow has been a travel writer, a magazine editor, a newspaper columnist, a TV scriptwriter and a novelist.  She is perhaps best-known as the author of three best-selling non-fiction books for teenage girls designed to  help them navigate those tricky high school years. Those books include Find Your Tribe  (and 9 other things I wish I'd known in high school); Find Your Feet (The 8 things I Wish I'd Known Before I Left High School) and the best-selling Ask Me Anything (heartfelt answers to 65 anonymous questions from teenage girls). Aside from writing books Rebecca writes for Mamamia and plays agony aunt to teenage girls on the Ask Me Anything podcast. Bec talks to thousands of high school students every year about friendship, resilience, giving back and life online.  Rebecca is an ambassador for The Pyjama Foundation, ReachOut Parents and #TeamGirls a joint initiative by Suncorp, ReachOut and Netball Australia.  In 2018 she was invited to be a member of the Queensland Government’s Anti-Cyber Bullying Taskforce.  She is a mother to three kids (including one tween girl!).



The Lighthouse Plan is $185.


The Lighthouse Plan

  • 🗸 The Lighthouse Plan Course
  • 🗸 PLUS FREE Access to the Tricky Conversations Course
  • 🗸 A bond building strategy, gold-star tween/teen parenting tip and a How-To-Handle page
  • 🗸 Access to a closed Facebook group
  • 🗸 Before You Hit Send notes
  • 🗸 Resources List
  • 🗸 PAYMENT PLAN AVAILABLE ($31 + GST per month x 6)

+ 10% GST for Australian Residents

Bec's Guarantee:

“In 2019 the tween years feel trickier than ever. Our girls are experiencing friendship dramas, a drop in confidence and body image issues to name a few. This course is your roadmap to the tween years as I show you how to guide your daughter through this often wonderful and sometimes rocky period!  

Best of all I’ll show you how to teenage-proof your relationship by strengthening your bond and your lines of communication with your daughter before she becomes a teenager. I offer a money-back guarantee for anyone who completes the course and feels like it wasn’t worthwhile - that’s how much I believe in it.”

Bec Sparrow

Bec Sparrow seems to me to live her mantra: be kind and brave. I loved getting tips and hints from her. She seems to be very much on my wavelength. Thank you.



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