Sunday Mail Column: Smart Thinking

It was the last thing I expected to find.  Two nights before Christmas in a backyard in the suburbs amidst the noise and fairy lights and is-that-Jim-dressed-as-an-elf? mayhem of a friend’s party I found a little bit of inspiration.  I found a real live role model.

Brissie bloke Tony Smart is best known for his popular Smartmen range of men’s skincare.  You know, moisturisers and shaving gels – that kind of thing. But it’s Tony’s other role that got us chatting.

You see Tony is a stay-at-home dad to three boys. His wife is Robin Bailey – host of 97.3FM’s Breakfast show. So Robin does the full time work gig and Tony juggles stay-at-home parenting duties and the demands of his own business. Gee, sounds familiar.

So Tony tells me what its been like being Mr Mum for the past ten years. There’s been the fish-out-of-water nature of it.  The big burly bloke trying to navigate his way through mothers’ groups and playdate protocol. The challenge of making school lunches and organising play dates for your toddler without looking like you’re trying to hit on the mothers’ group mums.

But the bit that really grabbed me was the mini- revolution Tony has started.   Tony Smart is doing what many thought was impossible. He’s getting dads into that traditionally female domain:  the school tuckshop. Suddenly dads are buttering pikelets and handing out fruit salad at his kids’ primary school.

It started innocently enough. Tony decided he wanted to have a go at tuckshop duty. (Well, his boys wanted him to do it since it automatically means they get ice-blocks at lunch.)

“As it turned out I was the first dad anyone could remember volunteering in the tuckshop … I’m sure they gave me the simple tasks first up to see how I coped!”

That one experience planted the seed.  When the tuckshop convener bemoaned how hard it was to find new volunteers, Tony suggested a “Dad’s Day”.  The event took on a life of its own.

The Principal started promoting “Dad’s Day” on Assembly.  The event was advertised in the school newsletter. Teachers pledged to buy their lunches from the dads on the big day.  And suddenly security guards, financial planners and advertising managers were signing up to cut sandwiches, sell poppers and be a part of their kids’ school for – in some cases – the first time.

“I think it was the first time ‘disc brakes and footy finals’ were mentioned while preparing ham and cheese sandwiches! But we managed to do the second biggest money take thanks to all the hype. But the highlight was the beaming smiles from our kids as they bought their friends up to the counter to meet the tuckshop dads. ”

(And, not to waste an opportunity, Tony picked the fathers’ brains for more ideas for his Smartmen range!)

Too often we go role model hunting in the wrong places. Like Hollywood. Or Suncorp Stadium.  Sometimes the best role models are just next door –  starting mini-revolutions in the suburbs.

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  1. bloowillbooks on January 16, 2010 at 6:51 am

    LOL…my husband was the first Mr Mum the entire country of Turkey had ever seen! Poor man had to learn a language and a culture as well as his six-month-old daughter’s routine. He did an extraordinary job and to this day (my daughter is nine) she’s his biggest fan. If there’s a choice between daddy and mummy to be made, she’ll take daddy every time! No, her attachment to him doesn’t bother me in the least. I love it because I think it provides me with freedoms that many mums don’t get.

    I don’t know about him being anyone else’s role model but he’s certainly my hero!

    • becsparrow on January 18, 2010 at 5:16 am

      That’s fantastic! What were you doing in Turkey?

  2. bloowillbooks on January 18, 2010 at 9:00 am

    I was teaching English. I left in the dark and came home in the dark (it was winter). Hubby had to learn fast!

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